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Diana Ryan Lexi Sylver Conflict in Non-Monogamous Relationships Podcast

Healthy Non-Monogamy: How to Navigate Conflict

Welcome back to my playground, fiends and friends.

I’ve been inundated with questions after each of my episodes about non-monogamy, as well as positive feedback and comments from grateful people who are happy they have found someone who understands them and the unique issues that could happen in a non-monogamous relationship.

So I invited Diana Ryan, licensed professional counselor and the owner and operator of 360 degrees Coaching and Counseling, to join me and help our listeners learn techniques to identifying possible areas of conflict in their non-monogamous relationships, as well as how to handle current conflict they are experiencing.

I first met Diana at Sex Down South in Atlanta, and attended a presentation she gave with her partner, Keiland, about non-monogamy and the lifestyle. Her openness to discussing intimacy and relationships in these contexts, as well as her willingness to open up to the group about how they handled certain conflicts within their own relationship, were very educational for me – and I know you’ll feel the same when you listen to this episode!

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So if you’re in an ethically non-monogamous relationship and want to know about some of the most common types of potential conflict in non-monogamy, and how to avoid or manage them, then you should definitely listen to this episode!

We’ll also help you with some strategies to make sure your relationship is happy and healthy, starting with how to spot and avoid some red flags and ensure you’re on the right path.

We’ll explore what to do if you encounter conflict in your relationship, and some ways that you can improve your relationship by developing certain skills and techniques.

So whether you’re in an open, swinging, non-monogamous or monogamish relationship, or you’re polyamorous, you’ll benefit from Diana Ryan’s expertise in relationships and sexuality to improve intimacy, communication and pleasure with your partner(s).

Listen live at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on The Sexy Lifestyle Network via Voice America!

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Cheryl Besner Lexi Sylver SDC Expert Dating Tips Podcast

Expert Dating Tips: From First Date to Relationship

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual people.

Since I hadn’t done an episode yet about dating, I figured it was high time I covered that important topic in one of my podcasts.

One of the reasons dating is so important is that it’s not only for single people. If you’re in a relationship, it’s also important to date your partner (or partners plural, for the rest of us non-monogamous and polyamorous people). Making time for your partner so they can feel special is critical to your relationship.

We don’t have enough hours in the day to do everything we have to do. Work itself eats up a lot of time, and by the time you get home it’s sometimes a struggle to find energy to spend with each other – quality time is often impossible. But making that plan for a date night – once a week if you can – and spending that quality time with each other, reconnecting intimately, can really boost your relationship and your mood! And it also gives you something to look forward to – circle it in red on your calendar!

Although this episode with dating expert Cheryl Besner is focused mostly on people who are single and not in relationships, and are looking to meet and connect with someone who interests them (besides for sexual reasons, because Tinder is there for that), you should listen to this podcast.

Cheryl Besner Lexi Sylver SDC Expert Dating Tips Podcast

Cheryl and I will explore the ins and outs of dating, including how to meet people, important questions like how to tackle the first date, how to put your best self forward, trying out the concept of a “pre-date” to vet your prospects, and communicating to your dating companion that you’re interested and want to spend more time together.

We talk about what strategies people can use if they’ve been out of the dating scene for a little while or are just coming out of a long-term relationship.

We’ll also be discussing how to get your groove back, rediscovering your self-confidence and self-identity, and how to figure out what you really want and need before starting to date someone new.

So listen tonight at 8 PM Eastern / 5 PM Pacific on The Sexy Lifestyle Network via Voice America!

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Happy International Women's Day - Lexi Sylver - Female Empowerment

An Open Letter to All Women (and Those Who Love Us)

This is for everyone identifying as femmes, and for those who support us.

Today is International Women’s Day.

Not just today, but every day, we should celebrate ourselves. Our successes and achievements. Our friendships. Our relationships. Our families. Our careers. Our intelligence. Our talents. Our skills. Our creativity. Our dreams. Our femininity. Our beauty. Our sexuality. Our strength. Our rights.

We all deal with our individual struggles every day, our anxieties, our insecurities, our fears.

We all cope with what sometimes seems like an insurmountable amount of stress, feeling like the weight of the world rests solely on our shoulders.

Let us help each other to remind ourselves that we are not alone. We’re in this together. Fighting for our rightful place in the world. Fighting to make our unique imprint on the universe. Making an impact on the lives of others. Inspiring others with our tenacity, our devotion, and our hearts, without even realizing it.

We are not in competition with each other. When we see other women thriving and happy, we don’t need to compare ourselves and our own personal journeys to them and theirs. We can be genuinely happy for them and be grateful that they are sharing these moments with us. That they – and we — have the freedom to be happy and successful.

And for all the good men out there who support real feminism: the fathers, the brothers, the partners, the teachers, the colleagues, and all the allies who help lift us up and give us every opportunity to thrive as women and individuals: thank you. Thank you for setting an example for other men, for teaching them how to treat and love women, how to respect us and our boundaries and make us feel safe, how to listen to us and give us a voice, how to pave the way for us to achieve our goals and dream even bigger than we ever imagined.

Female empowerment means supporting each other in pursuing our individual and collective dreams and ambitions.

Let us celebrate ourselves and each other, together: whomever you are, wherever you are, all over the world.

Happy International Women’s Day, Sisters.

Lexi

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Holly Randall Photography Pornography Female Gaze Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Pornography, Photography and the Female Gaze: An Interview with Holly Randall

Welcome back to my playground, fiends and friends.

I am extra thrilled about today’s episode of my podcast, because I’m reuniting with the one and only Holly Randall, world-renowned erotic photographer and adult film producer.

Back when I worked in the adult entertainment industry, Holly would produce and direct the porn I’d write for Digital Playground, and I would also add creative production to some of the scenes, series and movies we worked on together, including Season 3 of DP Star (akin to the porn star version of American Idol). I always loved teaming up with her for a variety of reasons – including the fact that she’s incredibly talented, has an eye for detail and quality, and is easy and pleasant to work with. I have a ton of respect for her.

So now, several years after I’m out of the adult entertainment industry, Holly is still rocking it with her #1 adult industry podcast, Holly Randall Unfiltered and continues to change the game behind the camera for erotic and porn shoots.

Holly Randall Photography Pornography and the Female Gaze Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

As part of this weekend’s celebration of International Women’s Day, I want to empower other women to become entrepreneurs and see that women can thrive in any environment – including the male-dominated adult entertainment industry. And Holly is a shining example of a kickass girl boss who’s truly made a name for herself over the last 20 years with her unique brand.

Holly and I will be covering what it’s like for a woman behind the scenes of the adult entertainment industry; specifically, what it’s like for a female director, producer and photographer behind the camera.

She’s also going to help us explore that fine line between erotica and pornography, what it’s like to be a woman in charge on set, and the different views and perspectives about beauty, ethics and the industry that she brings to the table. She also gives some solid words of advice for women who are looking to make their mark in the pornography and erotic photography industries.

So click here to tune in live tonight at 8 PM Eastern / 5 PM Pacific for my new episode on The Sexy Lifestyle Network!

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Dr. Elisabeth Sheff Exploring Polyamorous Relationships Lexi Sylver SDC Radio Podcast

Polyamory: Exploring Polyamorous Relationships

Welcome back to my playground, you sexy pervs.

I’ve been receiving great feedback from my listeners about last week’s episode about ethical non-monogamy with Dr. Liz Powell. If you haven’t heard it yet, give it a listen!

Tonight’s podcast is devoted to the topic of polyamory – a subject that seems to be becoming more popular in mainstream media, much like the concept of non-monogamy in general. People are sticking less and less to traditional relationship norms and are looking outside the (sometimes restrictive) box of monogamy to find a relationship type that works for them and their personality.

And for a lot of people, that means polyamory.

I invited an expert to join me: Dr. Eli Sheff, PhD, researcher, expert witness, coach, speaker, AASECT certified sex educator, educational consultant and published author of The Polyamorists Next Door (2014 hardback and ebook, 2015 paperback and audiobook), Stories from the Polycule (2015), and When Someone You Love is Polyamorous (2016).

Dr. Elisabeth Sheff Exploring Polyamorous Relationships Lexi Sylver SDC Radio Podcast

Here are some of the topics we’ll be covering in today’s podcast (and a whole lot more):

What IS polyamory?

What can different types of polyamorous relationships look like?

Are you curious whether or not polyamory can work for you, and how to manage some potential conflicts to maintain a healthy poly relationship?

How can you set boundaries that work for everyone involved in the polyamorous relationship?

How can you move into a polyamorous relationship dynamic as a couple with your partner?

What is the importance of polyaffective relationships (metamours) to the emotional health of a polycule?

I personally think that one of the most poignant elements that will be discussed during this episode include the fact that we discuss everything from how to determine if you’re ready for polyamory on any level (because it takes ENERGY and TIME), some of the most common conflicts in a polycule and how to resolve them, as well as a few other important notes you should know!

So whether you’re in a polyamorous relationship or not, or are just intrigued by how someone can manage to have connections to multiple people at the same time, listen to us tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on The Sexy Lifestyle Network, via Voice America.

If you missed tonight’s or last week’s episode of my podcast, you can still listen on: 
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How To Create Your Signature Sex Move Lexi Sylver

How to Create Your Signature Sex Move

Welcome back to my playground, fiends and friends.

If you’re here, you’re probably interested in sex and making your sex life more spicy and kinky. And you’re in the right place, you sexy devil, you.

Whether you’re on the prowl or in a devoted relationship, you know it takes a lot to earn a reputation of being a great lover.

You may think you’re talented in bed, but how memorable are you really?

A signature sex move (or several) will keep your partners coming back for more and solidify your status as a sex god or goddess.

Here’s how to get one step closer to getting a bronze statue of you erected in your honor.

You don’t need to reinvent the wheel.

When it comes to sex, there are infinite possibilities for pleasure – the combinations of moves you can try to bring your partner to climax are endless.

Your signature move isn’t necessarily going to be a complex choreography that you have to memorize. It should feel like it comes naturally (puns intended) from a move you already know how to do.

It can be as simple as swirling your tongue in a particular direction during oral sex, making a woman squirt while fingering her in a special way, deep throating a dick, doing a special shimmy during reverse cowgirl, et cetera, et cetera.

If you already have a tried-and-true sex move that drives your lovers wild, it’s time to perfect it. 

Remember: every body is different.

No two bodies operate exactly the same way. Just because your move makes one partner scream with pleasure does not necessarily mean that all your partners are going to love your move.

What truly makes a great lover is the understanding that every body reacts differently, and even one body can have their own sensitivity, tolerance and even mood (at times they may desire a rougher touch, and others when a softer style is craved).  Spontaneity and creativity are key when you adapt your signature sex move to your lover and find the right rhythm for the moment.

If you learn a move with one partner and perfect it with them, and then try it with other people and it’s not working, try to adapt your move to different partners, based on their body language, their communication and the way they react to your touch. Maybe the same move will work with them but at a different pace or angle. If not, then it’s time to try honing a new sex skill.

Take a page out of your sexual history book.

Over the time you’ve been sexually active, is there anything you did that really stood out to your partners?

If you can, and you’re still on good terms, ask your previous lovers what you’ve done sexually that they enjoyed the most.

If they can’t think of anything specific, don’t despair. It just means you have a little bit more work to discover your signature sex move.

Listen to your partner.

Time to get creative! By experimenting with new things on your partner(s) and trying new combinations of things, you can discover what makes them just moan a little, moan a lot, or scream your name in ecstasy.

Register what makes your lover tremble.  Spend some time testing and fine-tuning your move until it gets positive results in bed, every time.  Try to do it without them knowing they’re being watched for their every reaction, or else they’ll feel pressured and bias your results.  Even if your partner wants to be your test bunny, you’ll lose the element of surprise when you try to give them a sex-induced out-of-body experience. 

And talk to your partner! After your play session, ask them what they liked, what you could maybe do differently. And put their feedback into action next time.

Once you find the things that give your partner the most pleasure, that make them say “oh my GOD what was that amazing thing you did with your tongue?!” –then you’ve probably found your move.

Practice makes perfect.

Stroke, rub, thrust, repeat. Repeat. Repeat. And repeat some more.

Alternate speeds, angles and directions. The slightest change in any of these can create a totally different experience.  Your one constant must be your complete attention on your lover’s physical and verbal reactions – every muscle clench, groaning, hair-pulling, hip lifting, etc.  Once you learn to read their body language, you can tweak your move, and tabulate the results. Were some of your variations more popular or earth-shattering than others?

Keep refining your move until you can do it in your sleep.

Keep it fresh.

Once you find your move, keep what’s consistent as a basis to add in your repertoire, and switch up the other variables from time to time to keep you – and your move – fresh.  Your lover’s body is definitely not immune to the effects of habituation as they get used to your handiwork. Over time, the novelty can wear off.

Wrapping up…

Experimenting with different sex moves and trying to pleasure your partner is a wondrous thing.  Perfecting a sex move that, 99% of the time, it works every time, will earn you a positive reputation and solidify your status as a sex god or goddess. Stick to that main rule and you’ll be able to navigate any southern border crossing.

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Lexi

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Dr. Liz Powell Building Open Relationships Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Building Ethically Non-Monogamous Relationships

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual people!

I spend a lot of time talking to people about non-monogamy, and alllllll kinds of questions arise during these deep conversations.

Although there is no way to tackle all of your questions about consensually non-monogamous relationships in a single podcast episode (as ambitious as I am!), Dr. Liz Powell and I start off with some of the basics and answer a bunch of your questions in one swoop!

So if you’re curious about the best ways to navigate your first steps into the sexy world of consensual non-monogamy (also known interchangeably as ethical non-monogamy), join me today with Dr. Liz Powell, licensed psychologist specializing in non-traditional relationships, and the author of the book Building Open Relationships.

We’re going to explore different kinds of non-monogamous relationships and what each of those can potentially look like; how to develop and maintain healthy and ethical non-monogamy with your partner or partners, and the best communication tips to prevent and resolve potential conflict within these relationships.

Dr. Liz Powell Building Open Relationships Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Dr. Liz Powell is also going to talk to us about how to be authentic with yourself and with your partner(s) or your potential new partner(s) as you let them know your interest in non-monogamy, as well as how to best frame those conversations to evoke a more positive reaction from them, and what to do if your partner isn’t as interested in the concept of non-monogamy as you are.

So listen here tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST for your dose of kinky sex talk with me and Dr. Liz Powell on The Sexy Lifestyle Network, powered by Voice America.

In an episode coming very soon with Diana Ryan, I’ll be addressing more of your burning questions about different non-monogamous relationships, such as how to resolve common conflicts in open, monogamish and other types of ethically non-monogamous relationships.

And next week, I’ll be joined by Dr. Eli Sheff for a deep conversation about polyamorous relationships, including talking about different styles of being, who the partners are in these scenarios, what a polyaffective relationship can be, and how to resolve conflict and create the right physical and emotional environment to ascertain a healthy balance in any kind of poly relationship.

So, due to popular demand from all of you lovely and loyal listeners, we’ll have lots of discussion about non-monogamy coming up on my podcast!

If you missed tonight’s or last week’s episode of my podcast, you can still listen on: 
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Cuckolding Hotwifing Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Hotwives, Cuckolds and Kinks: Popular Taboos Explained

Welcome back to my playground, fiends and friends.

Tonight’s podcast episode is devoted to some surprisingly popular kinks: hotwives and cuckolds.

I’m joined by Brenna and Brian from Front Porch Swingers for this extremely intriguing discussion about hotwifing and cuckolding.

Here are some of the questions we’ll be addressing together:

Want to know the difference between cuckolding and hotwifing?

Want to learn more about whether or not jealousy plays a role in a hotwife or cuckold scenario?

How do these scenarios play out in real life?

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We’re going to get down and dirty with the intimate details of their unique relationship and explore how opening up your relationship to new erotic possibilities can improve your relationship and your sex life.

We also explore some of the dynamics of BDSM that contribute to Brenna and Brian’s unique relationship dynamic, the importance of female empowerment in their relationship and in the lifestyle, and the importance of honest and open communication in a relationship.

Check out their bio to get a feel for why that’s the case with them:

From meeting on Craigslist Casual Encounters (RIP) to participating in a BDSM dynamic to swinging, we are far from what most people would consider “The Norm.” That being said, you would be hard-pressed to find people in a more healthy, communicative relationship than us. We talk about everything, work through any and all concerns about our play, and are committed to one another on a level that some can’t imagine.

That has not been the case in our previous relationships. Between the two of us, we have 5 failed marriages under our belts. We repeatedly found ourselves in unfulfilling relationships, unable to be our true selves for fear of judgement and/or rejection from our partners. We strongly feel that the less than positive experiences in our pasts have prepared us well for happy and enriched lives together. We know what it takes to develop complete trust and honesty in a relationship, and are passionate about helping others attain it.

Our podcast, blog, and future coaching provide us an opportunity to share our failures and successes with other like-minded folks. Our goal is to create content based not only on our personal experiences, but also on the vast amount of research we’ve done on BDSM, swinging, polyamory, and so much more. We’re passionate about providing insights on how to live your most fulfilled and adventurous life possible!

So listen here tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST for your dose of kinky sex talk with me and Front Porch Swingers on The Sexy Lifestyle Network, powered by Voice America.

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King Heff Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast BDSM Bondage Discipline Domination Femdom Podcast

The Art of Sensual Impact Play: From Consent to After Care

Welcome back to my playground, my feisty fiends, fetishists, kinksters and pervs.

(Because if you’re not some kind of perv, what are you even doing here?!)

Tonight’s episode is one of my favorites. Yeah, I’m probably biased…

I first met King Heff at the Sex Down South Conference 2018 in Atlanta late last year, and one of my first memories of him was watching him flog someone. It was so well done, it was no surprise that there was a line of women waiting for their turn. Clearly, he knew exactly what he was doing.

So when I was thinking of doing another episode about kink and BDSM, since I haven’t done one yet after my amazing episode with Sunny Megatron, I thought of him right away.

I do get a bit personal too about my own techniques and my way of thinking about BDSM, so if you’re curious about what it’s like to be in the brain of a genuine Switch (someone who can be both dominant and submissive), then you should listen to tonight’s episode.

King Heff and The Art of Sensual Impact Play with Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast | The Sexy Lifestyle Network on Voice America

Here are some of the questions we’re going to explore together and give you some of the answers you’ve been seeking:

Thinking of experimenting with some BDSM but don’t know where to start?

Are you a more seasoned fetish player in search of some new techniques to try on your submissive?

If you’re looking to explore the more sensual side of BDSM, and learn how you can get out your own kinks, join me today with King Heff, a sexual enhancement product specialist from Charlotte, North Carolina, also known as the creator of Pink Heffs and Black Heffs and an expert in the art of sensual impact play.

King Heff is going to reveal what to do when we’re first getting started with a new submissive, how to communicate and establish consent, how to manage different elements of a BDSM scene, as well as some physical and psychological domination and obedience training techniques you can try on your submissive.

We’ll also discuss behavior correction, how to select the right BDSM toys and tools to use on your partner, and the importance of after care with your submissive.

So listen here tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST for your dose of kinky sex talk with me and King Heff on The Sexy Lifestyle Network, powered by Voice America.

If you missed tonight’s or last week’s episode of my podcast, you can still listen on: 
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How to Have an Orgy - Sex Uninterrupted and Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

How to Have an Orgy: Pleasure, Consent and Communication

Welcome back to my playground, you filthy pervs.

If you’re here reading this, chances are you want to have an orgy. Just a wild guess…

And if you are, then definitely read on, and listen to this podcast!

Group sex can be complicated, from finding the perfect partners who are open-minded, who you’re attracted to, who are down to play with you and often, with other people in the orgy.

I admit that my first orgy actually came quite naturally. It was spontaneous and it was a fantastic experience. I wasn’t nervous, and there was absolutely no issue with consent with myself nor my partners. We communicated about who we wanted to play with before we went into it, although we had no specific expectations, and once we were all touching each other, we just went with the flow. And everyone had a bangin’ good time!

In this special episode of my podcast Seek, Discover, Create, we’re going to help you figure out the logistics behind an orgy and answer some popular questions you might have, like:

Are you curious about what it’s like to be part of an orgy?

Are there rules to being in an orgy, or is group sex just a free-for-all?

How do you find the right people for an orgy?

How do you protect yourself sexually when you’re in a group sex situation?

How do you establish your boundaries and limits with the other participants? Can you say no to people you don’t necessarily want to play with?

Who is an orgy for? Is it just for swingers? Singles? Couples?

And with so many moving parts, how do you keep track of everyone’s pleasure while making sure you have an amazing experience?

If you want to explore all of these in-depth questions about group sex, and turn your fantasy to reality on your own or with your partner, join me tonight with my guests Taara Rose and James, hosts of Sex Uninterrupted podcast on The Sexy Lifestyle Network.

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We’re going to get personal with you about our own orgy experiences, give you practical tips and advice for communicating with your partner and your sex group, how to break the ice, and how to make sure everything is running smoothly.

We’ll also explore how to make sure you’re all practicing safe sex, so that everyone can have a consensually non-monogamous good time.

Because that’s what being in an orgy should be all about – letting yourself go and enjoying all the sensations and stimulation of being with multiple people at once!

If you missed tonight’s or last week’s episode of my podcast, you can still listen on: 
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