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Nolan Lawless | Lexi Sylver | Polyamorous Relationships

Polyamorous Relationships: Self-Care, Conflict and Communication

With consensual non-monogamy trending up as of late, according to this awesome article by Dr. Eli Sheff in Psychology Today, it’s become more important than ever to cover this wide-ranging topic.

As I’ve mentioned in previous blogs and podcasts, there are many different forms of ethically non-monogamous relationships, including polyamory. And all of them are fairly misunderstood, especially to those individuals who are not already in some form of a consensually non-monogamous relationship.

The polyamorous lifestyle can also have its own unique challenges, as folks navigate relationships with multiple people at the same time – and often forsake their own time for necessary things like self-care and setting appropriate boundaries with their partners, friends and family.

For today’s episode, I invited Nolan Lawless, a licensed professional counselor and educator in consensually non-monogamous relationships to help me explore some of these potential challenges. Sure, some of these topics are also applicable to other forms of CNM, and even to other relationships in general, so even if you’re not in the lifestyle, this episode is definitely worth a listen.

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We’re going to cover some of the ways you can start and maintain healthy polyamorous relationships in your own life. Nolan also shares some
helpful strategies for poly folks coping with difficult break-ups, potential issues with metamours and other relationship conflicts, feelings of jealousy, and managing self-care.

So, whether you’re already immersed in polyamory or simply seeking guidance on how to start living a poly lifestyle, this episode is for you.

Nolan and I will also discuss some of the potential hurdles that folks currently in polyamorous relationships might face when seeking clinical help with professionals who untrained in treating clients in consensually non-monogamous relationships.

Nolan also highlights the importance of thorough and healthy communication skills and their role in establishing and modifying boundaries within polyamorous relationships – and as you know, since I talk about the importance of communication all the time – this is a crucial point to any relationship in general.

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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ASN Lifestyle Magazine | Swinger Lifestyle | Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Swinging and Non-Monogamy: All About The Lifestyle

What’s it really like to be in the consensually non-monogamous lifestyle?

When it comes to ethical non-monogamy, there is no exact formula!

That’s why it’s so helpful to have people who ARE in the lifestyle help you navigate your way as you’re getting started, through each of your firsts, and through the fun and the difficult moments.

Enter ASN Lifestyle Magazine.

This podcast is with two of my favorite people, Michael and Sheri Ramos,
co-founders of ASN Entertainment and ASN Lifestyle Magazine. We chat like old pals about what ASN is all about, and why they founded the only magazine in the world for people in the lifestyle.

With more and more people choosing to look towards non-monogamy in their own relationships, media sources like ASN and SDC are only going to increase in popularity.

And since there are so many different ways to be in a non-monogamous relationship, and so many labels that people may interpret differently, I personally think the best way to learn about the lifestyle is by having people who are living it tell you what their own personal experiences have been like.

(Shameless self-promotion: I’ll be featured in the August 2019 issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine! And in that edition, I’ll be talking about my own experiences in non-monogamy, along with some helpful and educational tips to help you navigate your own relationship within the lifestyle! Stay tuned for more details coming soon about that!)

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So if you’re curious about the lifestyle and want to find resources to navigate your personal life and relationships, join us for this unique episode!

Together, we talk about the types of readers that ASN Lifestyle Magazine attracts, the kinds of topics they are most interested in, and how ASN selects the educators to help guide ASN’s readers through the various and often unique phases of their journey into non-monogamy.

Mike and Sheri also discuss current trends and events in the swinging and ethically non-monogamous lifestyle, and the exciting new directions they’ll be taking ASN in the near future. They also reveal their recent partnership with SDC Media (SDC.com), designed to broaden their readership and expand their international presence and bring sex ed to even more lifestylers.

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Bruna Nessif - The Problem with Dating - Let That Shit Go - Lexi Sylver Podcast

Dating, Self-Love and Personal Growth

Do you truly love yourself?

It’s time to stop comparing yourself to other people and the impossible standards of beauty and perfection that we see all over the media!

Easier said than done, right?

I know it’s virtually impossible to move past seeing people posting gorgeous (albeit Photoshopped) photos on their Facebook, Instagram and Twitter feeds. Seeing everyone looking happy, fit and fabulous can put us in a position where we want to compare ourselves, and our happiness, our success and achievements, our love lives, and our bodies, to those of other people.

But it’s a myth. People tend to only post about the positive things and don’t always share our realities with the world, for various reasons. It’s hard to feel like posting something on social media when we’re feeling down or not feeling our best. So what you end up seeing in your social feeds are not exactly accurate representations of anyone’s lives. And that’s not authentic.

The first step to a healthy life, though, is to accept yourself for who you are, and not compare yourself to others.

We all struggle with self-love, as well as being authentic with ourselves, but that’s the starting off point for having authentic relationships with others.

On my show today, Bruna Nessif, the author of Let That Shit Go, discusses how to learn the strength that lies in being vulnerable and honest with yourself, which can help encourage your self-growth.

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Together, we explore how it’s impossible to fit the molds and expectations that others have created for us, and how you can delve deeply within yourself and learn how to love yourself so you can grow as a person.

Yup, it’s a bit of a heavy episode but well worth it!

Bruna also talks about the basis of a healthy self-identity and how discovering your self-confidence can help you break the pattern of entering into unhealthy or unfulfilling dating scenarios and relationships.

She also reveals her personal choice to take a break from sex and how abstaining from sexual activities helped her gain insight into herself. Naturally, this choice was critiqued by others, and part of her gaining insight also had to do with brushing off the ways in which people think about sexuality, and judge others for their sexuality (or their decision to not explore it).

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Sex Clubs Swingers Clubs | Oasis Aqualounge Toronto | Lexi Sylver SDC Sex Podcast

Sex Clubs: What Are They Really Like?

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual people.

Today I want to talk about an altogether different type of playground: SEX CLUBS!

While swingers’ clubs are more well-known for couples and singles who are looking to hook up with each other, sex clubs have a more broad definition. While there are often a large number of non-monogamists and swingers who do attend sex clubs, there are also a variety of other kinksters, voyeurs, exhibitionists, curious folks and liberal-minded folks who are looking for a good time.

One major misconception about sex clubs is that if you’re there, it obviously means that you’re DTF. But that is NOT the case in reality. You can go to a sex club and just have a drink, make new friends, watch other people get it on, or, in the case of Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, where there’s a pool on the premises, just swim in the nude.

Joining me on my podcast to help go through some of the myths and facts of what it’s really like inside a sex club are two awesome women who truly know the ins and outs: Fatima and Cece!

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Fatima Mechtab is an event producer, marketing director and a part owner of Oasis Aqualounge. Cecelia Morrel (aka Cece) is the team leader of the Oasis Aquaflirts and also Fatima’s marketing assistant.

So we definitely get our giggles on during this podcast – maybe one of the only ones you’ll listen to that has actual sounds of people having sex in the background, since my guests join me live from Oasis!

Together, the three of us will explore:

  • What can you expect when you attend a sex club?
  • What types of events and theme parties go on at a sex club?
  • What’s it like to work at a sex club like Oasis Aqualounge
  • What types of parties are most popular with their clients?
  • What’s the importance of sexual empowerment and inclusivity when it comes to organizing events within the LGBTQ+ community?
  • How do they fight against double standards to normalize sexual openness, such as when it comes to male bisexuality?
  • How do the staff at the club work to ensure the safety of their clients and enforce rules about consent?
  • How else can the staff facilitate guests’ experiences at the club, whether they’re first-timers at a sex club or are more experienced players?

So tune in tonight at 8 PM on The Sexy Lifestyle Network to get the answers to these burning questions!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Unleash Your Inner Slut | Taara Rose | The Spiritual Slut | Lexi Sylver SDC Sex Podcast

Unleashing Your Inner Slut

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual fiends and friends.

Why is the word SLUT soooo derogatory?

I’ve been slut shamed so many times throughout my life. It started when I was in high school – and I was slut shamed by people I considered to be friends. Some of whom were my BEST friends, too. So it especially hurt when it happened and when rumors spread around school about my sexual activities.

My sex life was really no one’s business but mine, but I gained a reputation as being easy and slutty. And you know what? I didn’t feel bad about it in the least. I OWNED the fact that I was (am) a slut.

But what this early experience did for me was helped me realize that so many people are ashamed of expressing their own sexuality. A lot of folks are insecure or scared to experiment with new things and people, or to become the sexual beings they might want to be.

So began my mission to educate people about sex – not only about the ins and outs of the wide range of sexual behaviors and activities that we can engage in and really enjoy, but also that you should feel free to express your sexuality however you choose, if you choose, without feeling shame, guilt, fear or judgment.

Which is basically the entire point of my podcast! That’s my mission.

That’s why I am especially excited to have my friend and fellow slut Taara Rose join me on tonight’s podcast! You may remember her from my previous podcasts with Sex Uninterrupted with her partner James.

But this time I got her all to myself!

Taara has been working on a program called The Spiritual Slut for a while, and recently launched her courses to help empower women to discover and express their sexuality.

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We’ll be getting personal about our own experiences with slut shaming, and how we became motivated to become sex educators and help people with their own journeys to unleashing their inner sluts.

Taara and I will also answer these questions:

  • Why is the word SLUT such a derogatory term?
  • How can we start saying “slut” in a positive way and remove the shame and stigmas imposed by society when it comes to sexuality and sexual freedom?
  • What’s up with society’s double standards when it comes to traditionally female versus male sexuality, and how you can connect – or reconnect – with your inner slut, whether you’re single or in any kind of relationship?
  • How can we get out of a sexual funk and battle feelings of insecurity, in order to free our mind and body to explore our sexual identity and slutty side with confidence and without judgment?

Listen tonight at 8 PM EST on The Sexy Lifestyle Network via Voice America.

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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How to Be a Hotwife | Front Porch Swingers | Lexi Sylver SDC Sex Podcast

How to Be a Hotwife

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual friends and fiends.

What’s one of the most popular search terms when it comes to sexuality?

That’s right. “Hotwifing” and “hotwife” are more popular than ever before… but are these terms truly understood by the people who are searching for them?

So what exactly does it mean to be a hotwife? And how is it different from cuckolding?

There are a lot of misinformed folks who think cuckolding is synonymous with hotwifing, but Brenna and Brian are happy to teach us how to distinguish between them.

My first chat with Brenna and Brian of the podcast Front Porch Swingers went into some depth about cuckolding.

Listen to Hotwives, Cuckolds and Kinks: Popular Taboos Explained.

That previous episode might help prep you for tonight’s edition with this sexy hotwifing duo! Think of it as a perfect part 2 to our first conversation!

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Some of the questions that Brenna and Brian will be answering include:

  • What’s the difference between hotwifing and cuckolding?
  • How do the dynamics of a hotwife and stag relationship differ from other types of monogamous and non-monogamous relationships?
  • What’s the best way to recruit new playmates to join in on your hotwife dynamic?
  • How do you communicate with your partner and potential partners about your interests, boundaries and kinks?
  • What are some of features of a hotwifing relationship that can be applied to any relationship for partners who want to keep their desire alive?
  • What are some of the lessons they learned while getting started with their hotwifing relationship?
  • What advice is there for couples or individuals who are seeking to explore hotwifing for the first time?

Hear all the answers to these questions and many more when you tune in tonight!

Listen in at 8 PM Eastern on The Sexy Lifestyle Network via Voice America.

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Jealousy Kitty Chambliss Loving Without Boundaries Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

How To Deal With Jealousy

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual folx!

I have been waiting a WHILE to go over this super interesting topic with all of you: THE GREEN-EYED MONSTER! Yes, I’m talking about jealousy (no, this time it’s not a weird sex euphemism)!

Jealousy affects all of us, and can happen whether you’re in a relationship or not. You can feel jealous of friends and siblings, of perfect strangers on the Internet…. anyone can fall victim to jealous feelings.

Today’s podcast is going to address a lot of things regarding jealousy, namely, how to cope with jealousy when you’re in a relationship – especially if you’re in some form of a non-monogamous relationship or a polyamorous relationship.

I first met Kitty Chambliss, the founder of Loving Without Boundaries (which is an amazing podcast as well as a fantastic Facebook group that I’ve really been enjoying being a part of), at Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, Arizona.

I attended her workshop on Surviving Jealousy and I loved it! I’m not by nature a jealous person, and in my non-monogamous relationship with my primary partner, I haven’t (yet) encountered any feelings of jealousy. However, her workshop did teach me to become more empathetic when it came to my partners experiencing feelings of jealousy and communicating them to me.

Jealousy is a NORMAL feeling! We can all be prone to jealousy under certain circumstances and at different points in your life, and with different partners (if that’s the case with you). No matter what kind of relationship you’re in, jealousy can rear its ugly head and cause you to feel uncomfortable, angry, sad, insecure, and a whole mess of other emotions you’d rather not have to be confronted with.

Whether you’re like me and don’t really experience jealousy but want to learn more ways to be empathetic towards your partner(s), or you DO experience jealousy and want to learn strategies on how to cope with those feelings, give today’s podcast a listen!

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So if you’re struggling with jealousy and finding it difficult to communicate those feelings to your partner(s), and want to know how you can successfully cope with jealousy and maintain a healthy relationship, tune in tonight!

We’re going to explore what jealousy is all about, and the healthy ways of coping with jealousy and being honest with your partner(s), no matter what kind of relationship you’re in. We’ll talk about healthy strategies for coping with and expressing your jealousy constructively rather than destructively, how to manage your jealousy if/when it arises, and amazing techniques to help you live with persisting jealousy.

So tune in tonight at 8 PM Eastern Time on The Sexy Lifestyle Network via Voice America!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Lexi Sylver Cheryl Besner Pillow Talk With Cheryl Release Inner God Goddess

How To Release Your Inner God / Goddess

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual fiends and friends!

Cheryl Besner recently invited me back on her show, Pillow Talk With Cheryl, along with Dr. Philip Morphew.

We talked openly and honestly about how to release your inner god / goddess. I wasn’t expecting to get so deep, but the episode flowed soooo well! This episode is really something to listen to – and pretty different from the ones you’ve listened to on my own podcast, Seek, Discover, Create.

Give it a listen here:

Episode Description: Do you ever feel that there is a lion within your soul that is ready to roar? Do you hear your inner voice whispering “there is so much more of me that I want to explore and express”? Are you ready to unleash your power and step into the Goddess/God world that is waiting for you? Today’s intimate conversation is about discovering the Divine Godliness in each of us. Join me and Lexi Sylver as we share how you can release your inner God / Goddess.

You can also check out the episode directly on Voice America’s Variety Network.

Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Lexi Sylver LGBTQIA Pride Month

Happy Pride Month!

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual folx!

Are you feeling proud of who you are? You should be!

No matter your sexual orientation and gender and how you choose to express and explore them, you should feel comfortable to embrace who you are!

Western society (and mostly the whole world, let’s be honest) is antiquated when it comes to giving others the space, respect and laws for folx in the LGBTQIA+ community to live our lives in away that we should be free to do!

Personally, I identify as a pansexual, kinky cis-gender female in an ethically non-monogamous relationship.

And no, I’m NOT attracted to pans! 😉

There is so much to learn about the incredible folx in the LGBTQIA+ community. I learn more and more every day. An incredible resource for me has been Queer Sex Ed, a podcast and website devoted to education people about inclusive and comprehensive sexual education. I highly recommend it.

If you are straight (meaning you identify as heterosexual), then it’s ever so important for you to be an ally. To do that, it’s important to respect the fact that Pride is a time when individuals within the LGBTQ+ community are coming together to celebrate their sexuality and their gender. So if you’re straight, don’t take the spotlight away from those who are expressing themselves. This is about all of us lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, questioning, queer, intersex, and asexual folx (to name a few!) who are all too often discriminated against for the way we feel about ourselves, our bodies, our minds, and our sexuality.

I acknowledge that as a cis woman who is pansexual, I have it a lot easier than some of the other folx in our community, because it’s WAY more socially acceptable to be a cis female who has an open sexuality than it is for others – which is TOTALLY unfair. So I try to use my privilege for good, to help educate about gender and sexuality and identity, to fight for everyone to have equal human rights, so we can all live our lives however we so choose.

No one should have the right to control what we can and can’t say and do, who we can love, and how we feel in our own bodies.

No matter your gender and sexuality, or how you choose (or not) to express them:

  • Be respectful, ALWAYS.
  • Don’t yuck someone else’s yum! Just because someone might be into something you’re not, does not give you the right to judge them! Live and let live.
  • Never assume someone’s gender. If you don’t know, then you can respectfully ask them, “what are your preferred pronouns?”
  • USE an individual’s proper pronouns!!!!!
  • Support the LGBTQIA community by buying from queer shops, employing queer-identified people, and speaking up if you hear people making insensitive comments about someone’s gender and/or sexuality.
  • Educate yourself. There is a lot to know about gender identity and sexual identity. Don’t assume you know everything!

Happy Pride Month, Lexual folx!

Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Charlie and Arienne SexBecause BDSM Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

BDSM: Mind, Body and Kink

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

Are you ready to get kinky with me?

Tonight, we’re talking about one of my favorite topics: BDSM.

Let’s further your knowledge about BDSM by covering some of the questions you sent me after my last two interviews with Sunny Megatron and King Heff about BDSM.

I highly recommend listening to these episodes to give you a slightly more well-rounded look into the kinky lifestyle:

Exploring BDSM: Kink, Sex, Consent and Safety (with Sunny Megatron)

The Art of Sensual Impact Play: From Consent to After Care (with King Heff)

In tonight’s episode, I invited a fantastic duo, Charlie and Arienne Williams of SexBecause, who are both clinical practicioners as well as kinksters themselves! So they have a unique background to be able to speak about their personal experiences as well as the more in-depth insight into the psychology of BDSM.

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So if you’re curious about kink and BDSM, and want to know why some kinky folks enjoy BDSM so much, you definitely need to listen to this podcast!

Charlie and Arienne reveal their personal experiences with BDSM, and apply their clinical knowledge to our discussion about what a healthy dominant/submissive and/or master/slave relationship looks like, negotiating boundaries and establishing consent with your partner, and what after care can look like for different people in different scenarios.

We’re going to help you discover more about the BDSM lifestyle, and discuss why it can be therapeutic for some people. (It’s not a replacement for therapy, but it can have therapeutic qualities for individuals who are in healthy dominant/submissive and/or master/slave relationships.)

Charlie and Arienne also offer some unique tips and tricks to incorporate kinky play in your own sex life, as well as how to kink it up a notch when the novelty of your BDSM play starts to wear off a bit.

So tune in to join us as we shatter some crucial myths behind the kink!

Listen to my podcast LIVE at 8 PM EST on The Sexy Lifestyle Network!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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