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STIs and STDs: Removing Shame and Stigma

June 16, 2020

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

Why is talking about our sexual health such a taboo topic? When we’re able, we frequently visit our doctor for check-ups, tend to any ailments, and talk freely about our physical health… that is, unless it’s of sexual nature.

STIs and STDs are just as common as the cold, flu, or other common infections we may get from person-to-person transmission. While we don’t crucify our siblings or spouses for passing along the common cold to us, we treat it differently when it comes to our genitals. With the title “sexually transmitted”, whether it’s an infection or a disease, we might be made to feel we are dirty, gross, or embarrassed. But we’re also human!

I think we should think about STIs and STDs the same way we think about colds and flus and other physical ailments. And guess what? It’s not the end of the world. And having an STI or STD doesn’t mean the end of your sex life, either!

How can we overcome feelings of shame and negative stigma surrounding sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)?

I invited Courtney Brame, the founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), for an open and personal discussion about sexual health.

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Courtney shares his personal experience receiving a positive herpes diagnosis and why he was inspired to start his podcast to discuss others’ stories about their positive diagnoses. He explains how having an STI or an STD doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. In fact, it can mean the expansion of it: with more communication, taking time to connect, and building authentic and trusting partnerships.

Courtney suggests the best ways to inform yourself and who to talk to about
your physical and mental health. What are the best resources to make sure you are heard in a non-biased and loving manner? We discuss good ways to disclose your positive status to your current partner(s) and potential new partner(s).

Communication is key, and although disclosing your positive status is a nerve-wracking, there are some tips to help alleviate the pressure on yourself and make your partner feel more comfortable about it.

Lastly, we discuss what to do if you get diagnosed with a positive status. Often times, the actual diagnosis isn’t dismantling, but the shame around it can certainly feel that way. But rest assured, there are resources to support you!

In this episode, we also answer some of the audience’s Letters to Lexi and offer advice on safe sex, navigating disclosure and more.

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Lexi Sylver

I’m a shameless sexcapader, author of erotic tales, sexual educator of taboo topics and alternative relationships, pleasure toy sexpert, and advocate for sexual freedom. My mission is to empower you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality, stripping away your inhibitions and fears, so that you can freely pursue the fulfilling sex life and relationships you desire — and deserve. As your Lexual guide, I’ll help you map out your own erotic journey by giving you the tools you need to better connect with your own mind and body, communicate your desires and needs with your partners, and thrive in your customized, authentic lifestyle. I’m known for my passionate style and inclusive approach, drawing from my own real-life experiences to educate, entertain, and inspire you, all while helping you discover the realm of infinite erotic possibilities that await you once you open your mind to them. Whether you’re indulging in my erotic short stories, getting sex and relationship coaching from me, joining my webinars and events, reading my articles and blogs, perusing the sex toys in my shop, or listening to my podcasts, I strive to stimulate you to think about your sexuality in a new light — freely and fearlessly. Dare to delve deeper and explore YOUR Lexuality.

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