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Share Your Fantasies | Sexting 101

March 10, 2020

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends…

The brain is the number one sex organ before the genitals. Yes, you heard me! Without sexually stimulating the brain in some way, our genitalia would not follow with sexual arousal: this is why using words is to our advantage.

As an erotica writer, it’s clear how the power of my erotic stories can take someone to the edge of desire. Sexting is no different, and can actually be a powerful tool to explore different fantasies.

Sexting is a Safe Place to Explore New Ideas

Do you have a kink that you’ve been thinking about? A new position or act that really turns you on and you want to bring it up to your partner? This would be an ideal time to test out that idea and see what your partner thinks of it.

The Phone Interface Takes Some of the Pressure Off

Communication isn’t always easy when it’s face to face. I get it! It might lessen anxiety to bring up your desires through a naughty text and see the response. When we don’t feel nervous, we can convey what we want much easier! We also have more time in between messages to gather our thoughts and get creative.

Suggest New Things You Want to Try

Want to add a new toy to your repertoire? Watch a naughty video together? Incorporate some booty play? Suggest it! “Wouldn’t it be so hot if you watched me use X toy?” or “Let’s play a game: I do to you whatever is done in the video we watch together.”

Find Out How Your Partner Feels About Experimentation

You can check in with your partner and still make it sexy!

“I would love to go down on you and use new X toy. How does that sound to you? / What do you think of that?”

The list can go on and on, but simply ask how they feel about your suggestions.

Make Your Partner Feel Involved in Setting a Scene

Ask your partner to participate! Ask them what they would like done to them, what scenario they would like to be in. “If we were in a luxurious hotel room together, where would you want to fuck me first?” Play on top of their suggestions, and watch your sexy, orgasmic story grow.


Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, and her personal blog. As the Media Director for, the world’s largest adult sex education and swingers dating platform, Lexi collaborates with sexuality, health and relationship experts to provide reliable resources for those who seek it. In her work as an advocate, educator and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she travels frequently to conferences and speaks publicly at events like The Montreal Taboo Sex Show (Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction). Lexi wrote and creatively produced many movies, series and scenes in the adult entertainment industry and was nominated in 2017 for an AVN award for Best Screenplay. She is a published erotic author with her new book, a collection of erotic short stories called Mating Season, now available. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality!

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