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Go Fuck Yourself: Happy Masturbation Month!

May 5, 2021
Lexi Sylver Masturbation Month

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual friends and fiends.

It’s my favorite time of year again, because May is Masturbation Month! Not like we need to have a designated date / month to celebrate self-pleasure… but it just gives us an extra occasion to celebrate fucking ourselves.

Why Masturbate?

Masturbation is SO good for you, in so many ways. Not only does it feel fucking amazing, but masturbating is also healthy for you. Masturbating can help you manage stress, anxiety and depression, and even boost your immune response.

Masturbating is THE ideal way to help you safely learn more about your body and yourself: what you enjoy, where you like to be touched, how you like to be touched (like pressure, intensity, speed, direction) what feels good and where, and even what you don’t like. You can explore your body at your leisure, without feeling any pressure to perform or orgasm (which can sometimes happen when you’re playing with a partner). As you explore your body and better learn what feels good to you, you can communicate that to your partners. No one is psychic. Just saying.

Sharing what feels good to you with your partners can help improve your sex life, increase intimacy in your relationship, and also increase the chances of you reaching orgasm with more frequency (not that orgasm should be the sole goal / focus of playing with your partner, but it is a highly desirable result). All of the above can absolutely help you improve your relationship and your and your partner’s overall satisfaction.

The list of the advantages of masturbation goes on and on… and on… the way your sex toys can (just make sure they’re always charged up and ready to go)!

Speaking of lists, here’s one that highlights the most popular sex toys currently for sale in my online sex toy shop, and why I highly recommend them to my friends, partners… and just about anyone who comes to me for sex advice.

Couples Toys: Using Sex Toys For Partnered Sex

Most people think of sex toys as being instruments for solo play, but tend to forget that sex toys can be a very welcome addition to partnered sex, too.

Purrrrsonally, I LOVE using sex toys when I play with my sex partners and always have one handy in my purse when I go out (because you never know when the mood will strike or who you’ll meet).

Couples sex toys are incredibly popular in my sex toy shop, revealing just how many other people also enjoy enhancing their partnered sex lives with a sex toy (or two, or three…).

There are lots of ways to use sex toys with your partners, whether you’re putting on a show for them (or being a lucky voyeur as they masturbate in front of you), mutually masturbating with your partner, using sex toys on each other as you pleasure each other, or using sex toys together to amplify each other’s pleasure… all of which can intensify your mutual pleasure, your connection, and your relationship.

Which brings me to my list of tried-and-true sex toys and why I fucking love them…

Sex Toys I LOVE and Why You Will, Too.

Since you asked so nicely, I’ve compiled some of my favorite adult luxuries from my Lexual sex toy shop to help you kick off Masturbation Month.

No matter how you choose to play with yourself, it’s always important to have the right inspiration. For me, it’s all about erotic stories. If you’re anything like me, you’ll want to get your hands on my book of erotic short stories, Mating Season, to spark your filthy imagination.

Whether you’re using these to fuck yourself or as a couples sex toy for partnered purposes, these are some of my top picks to start you off on the right path for pleasure.

Self-pleasure lovers and hedonists, this blog’s for you.

For Good Guybrations

Sex toys aren’t just for our vulva-owning friends. Everybody can enjoy sex toys! There are lots of sex toys for penises and prostates in my shop.

One of my faves, the Hot Octopuss Pulse Solo Essential, is coined as the one and only “Guybrator” (yeah, I can’t take credit for the cute name), giving solo (and partnered) play a whole new meaning. Anyone with a dick can enjoy this one. Simply use a slick, water-based lube on your erect or flaccid penis, wrap the Pulse Solo around your shaft, and enjoy the gentle (or extra intense) oscillations.

This powerful gadget can also double as a couples toy, letting your partner pleasure you or, or by wrapping it around your penis (or strap-on dildo) and having your partner ride it or use it to vibrate against your partner’s clitoris and vulva.

For Clitoriscious Climaxes

Did you know that nearly 80% of clitoris owners need clitoral stimulation to have an orgasm? That’s right, penetration alone doesn’t always do it for the majority of us (myself included).

While traditional vibrators will forever hold a treasured spot in my extensive sex toy collection, I am a HUGE fan of mixing it up with Womanizer’s “Pleasure Air Tech” toys. The Womanizer Premium is one of them, and creates a contact-less suction effect for your clit with gentle vibrations, similar to the feeling of oral sex on demand — especially when you add lube.

The Womanizer Premium is also a perfect toy to use as a couples sex toy for partnered sex. When I’m getting fucked doggy-style, for example, my partner’s hands might be busy pulling my hair back and slapping my ass at the same time, so I help them (and myself) out by applying the womanizer to my clit to add clitoral stimulation.

You can read my review of the Womanizer Premium and why you’ll love it, too.

For Insatiable Intensity

Triple your pleasure and hit ALL your hottest spots at the SAME time!

If you’re a hedonist like me and you want to have it all, and RIGHT NOW, the Happy Rabbit Elite Triple Curve Vibrator is for you!

Fill all of your holes at the same time while also paying attention to your sensitive clit (the rabbit part of the vibrator is a classic for clitoral stimulation), and blast off into ecstasy by yourself, with a partner, or a group of lovers.

Combine this triple stimulator with a quality water-based lube, and you’ll be the life of any party.

P.S. As a little TMI share from my personal sexperiences, playing with this triple stimulator has previously made me into a one-woman sex show at a swingers club. Yeah, I’m an exhibitionist, and I took extra pleasure in playing with this sex toy for a big audience (as if the intense simultaneous pleasure of this vibrator wasn’t enough by itself!).

For Tantalizing Thrusts 

For thrusting that won’t stop coming until you WANT to stop cumming, try the Forto Thruster.

This powerful thrusting vibrator will give you sensations that feel like you’re getting fucked by an experienced sex partner with the stamina of a tantric master.

The Forto Thruster has SEVEN thrusting modes to pleasure yourself (or your partner), so enjoy exploring them and finding the perfect thrusting motions and intensities that work best for your body and your mood, and build up your climax as you go through them!

I’ve used this thrusting vibrator as a couples toy with my partner, having them use this in my pussy while they’re licking and sucking my clit, and while I have a butt plug in so I can get some double penetration.

For Secretive Spontaneity

There’s nothing quite like secretly getting pleasured while you’re in public! Even if you’re not a slutty little exhibitionist like me, you’ll probably still get excited by the prospect of sharing a filthy secret with your partner with this remote-controllable sex toy.

The We-Vibe Moxie is a tantalizing addition to your toy collection, with a magnetic clip that you use to easily attach it to your panties and up against your clit. Just download the free We-Connect app and pair your device with it to enable infinite combinations of vibration styles and intensities. So while everyone at the coffee house thinks you’re just checking out memes on your phone, you’ll really be customizing your orgasmic potential with the app and the vibrating device between your thighs.

We-Vibe’s remote-controlled couples toys are SO versatile. Give your partner the chance to control your pleasure while you’re having dinner and/or drinks at your next date night out (or even at a family engagement, if you’re extra adventurous and shameless). For those of you in long-distance relationships, you can also give your long-distance lovers the ability to pleasure you from afar!

If you’re a swinger, polyamorous or in any other form of open relationship, remote-controllable couples toys like Moxie can add Lextra pleasure, exhibitionism and voyeurism as you pass around the control to multiple people.

The possibilities for pleasure are truly endless!

For Anal Adventuring

Whether you’re an anal connoisseur or a booty play beginner, the B-Vibe Anal Training Set is a perfect fit for EVERY booty. Ranging from small to large, this b-Vibe anal training kit comes with three basic silicone butt plugs and are designed for all stages of anal training.

The extensive guide that’s included with this anal training kit gives you all the tips and tricks for play, anal hygiene, sizing, and even positions and ways to enjoy anal play.

Trust me, you’ll have a BOOTYFUL time!

Check out my Complete Guide to Awesome Anal Sex for more tips on getting fit for anal pleasure.

What other toys do you recommend trying out for solo or partnered play? Share with me in the comments below!

Until next time, Stay Lexual and connect with me on Instagram, OnlyFans, Twitter and Facebookwhere you can get all of my most recent updates, down to the dirtiest little detail!

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Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces SDC.com’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SDC.com and her personal blog. As the Media Director for SDC.com, the world’s largest adult sex education and swingers dating platform, Lexi collaborates with sexuality, health and relationship experts to provide reliable resources for those who seek it. In her work as an advocate, educator and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she travels frequently to conferences and speaks publicly at events like The Montreal Taboo Sex Show (Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction). Lexi wrote and creatively produced many movies, series and scenes in the adult entertainment industry and was nominated in 2017 for an AVN award for Best Screenplay. She is a published erotic author with her new book, a collection of erotic short stories called Mating Season, now available. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality!

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