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Dr Carlen Costa The Everyday Goddess Lexi Sylver Erotic SDC Podcast

The Everyday Goddess: How to Stop Settling For Less

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

I’m pleased to be back this week with a podcast episode all about empowerment!

It’s been a hell of a time for me lately – so much is going on in my little world! I can’t wait to share with you all soon – so be sure to subscribe to my newsletter and follow me on social media to get an IN on the hottest updates!

In the meantime, tonight’s episode is especially empowering! Don’t let the title fool you – the messages and great advice contained herein are applicable for any gender – not just for the goddesses out there!

I think we can mostly all agree that there have been times when we’ve settled for less than we knew we deserved in our relationships, friendships, careers and personal lives.

For some folks, settling for less is not just something that happens sometimes, it’s almost a way of life. They’re trapped in a cycle that’s fueled by insecurity and a fear of diverging from the status quo that they know, even if it means pursuing a better way of life.

We all know at least one person who’s in a relationship with a partner who doesn’t seem to treat them right, and when you ask how your friend is, they say “fine”. FINE is simply not good enough! FINE means you’re just going about your life in the same pattern with nothing changing, and even if it means you’re not particularly happy with your circumstances (and yourself), that you’re just SETTLING for FINE.

And what Dr. Carlen Costa, The Everyday Goddess, and I talk about at length in this podcast is that SETTLING SHOULD NOT BE AN OPTION!

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Carlen Costa recently wrote a book called LOVE: The Women’s Guide to Not Fucking Settling, and it details her personal journey and all the ways in which many of us are settling rather than making a change in our lives for the better. We might be trapped in a comfort zone and are afraid of the alternative – like being in a less-than-happy relationship but fear what happens if you suddenly become single.

A lot of these feelings are based on insecurity, of feeling less than and not deserving of real love, passion and happiness. And that fucking SUCKS! That’s no way to live!

So join us tonight for a very personal, very in-depth discussion about how you can learn to STOP SETTLING and start living the life you truly desire and DESERVE! YOU ARE WORTH IT!

Pardon the caps, but it’s sometimes difficult for me to emphasize just how loudly I’m exclaiming these points because you can’t hear me as I write – but you CAN hear the passion in my and Carlen’s voices when you listen to our podcast!

We’re going to discuss self-love, body image, confidence, and how self-esteem issues and insecurity contribute to our feelings of being unworthy of happiness and pleasure.

PLUS! In my NEW segment “Letters to Lexi”, we will shamelessly answer questions from listeners about the challenges they’re having in their lives and relationships and offer advice about what they can do to try to overcome them.

Feel free to send me YOUR questions about sex, health and relationships and I might choose yours to answer in my next episode! You can email me or connect with me on social media to send in your questions.

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Cooper S Beckett Lexi Sylver Erotic SDC Podcast

Swinging, Bisexuality and Other Queer Tales

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual fiends and friends.

I have yet another saucy podcast episode for all of you!

It’s also super entertaining, because Cooper S. Beckett is just naturally hilarious – and also damn intelligent. It’s a fantastic combination because I really give him lots of leeway to rant and do his thing in this episode.

We start off talking about his own personal journey from monogamy to consensual non-monogamy, specifically, swinging. It’s deeply moving because I think a lot of folks can identify with the way Cooper describes himself as feeling, which is what prompted the move to non-monogamy in the first place. Ah, I love origin stories like his!

Cooper and I also talk about things like how to talk to your monogamous partner about entering the lifestyle, and some of the challenges that are bound to come with making that transition.

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We also explore how the swinging, polyamorous and LGBTQ+ communities intersect and some of the friction that has arisen in his own life by virtue of identifying as both a bisexual male and a swinger. He also addresses how swingers can be more inclusive of bisexual men in the lifestyle (because yes, as I’ve mentioned in several other podcasts, this double standard exists and it’s super unfair and ridiculous).

Cooper is also the author of a bunch of fantastic books, including a new collection of horror books, including his new book, Osgood Riddance (available for pre-sale now and on sale as of October 1st!). Something he does differently as a fiction writer (which I love) is featuring representations of characters of different genders, sexual orientations and relationship styles… but making sure that the story doesn’t revolve solely around these attributes. He also has some ideas about how other writers and media can and should have characters that are more representative of real-life human beings!

So our podcast is really quite a collection of thoughts and rants from both of us about the way society is, our feelings and experiences within the lifestyle and what we hope and envision a more ideal world to be.

So join us for my new podcast episode, airing live tonight (and every Tuesday) at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST on VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Dr. Justin Lehmiller Sexual Fantasies Lexi Sylver SDC erotic podcast

Sexual Fantasies: Taboo, Popular and Surprising Scenarios

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

Do you want to know what kinds of filthy things that people fantasize about?

Of course you do, you dirty perverts! I know I do!

In the spirit of understanding more about human sexuality and human behavior, I often visit Dr. Justin Lehmiller’s blog, Sex and Psychology, to see what’s hot and trending in the world of of SEX. There is so much to know about our sexuality and I am fascinated by all the studies and surveys that Dr. Lehmiller has conducted.

Dr. Lehmiller is also the author of the book Tell Me What You Want: The Science of Sexual Desire and How It Can Help You Improve Your Sex Life, which is definitely a must-read, especially for those of us who are working in the sexuality field.

That’s why I invited him onto my podcast, so we can finally talk more in depth about the results of one of his surveys about sexual fantasies.

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In this podcast, we talk about the surprising real-life findings from the surveys he’s done with people who have revealed their sexual fantasies.

We have a vivid conversation about the most common / popular sexual fantasies that people reported having, and the gender and sexual orientation differences in the types and frequencies of sexual fantasies.

Dr. Lehmiller tells us all about the sexual fantasies that people consider to be taboo but are actually normal, like ravishment (aka forced sex) fantasies and cuckolding fantasies, and explains why people might have these kinds of fantasies. (Spoiler alert: a high number of women reported having more kink / BDSM fantasies, and there’s a parallel there between BDSM and the fantasy of being ravished).

We also explore how having an active sexual imagination can be beneficial to your mental health, and what do to if you’re having unwanted sexual fantasies.

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Hotwife Taylor Leigh and Gabriel Mann Sexxxperience Lexi Sylver Erotic SDC Podcast

The Secret World of Swinging and Hotwifing

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual fiends and friends.

We all have our own dirty little secrets, don’t we?

And who doesn’t live a secret that’s good and filthy?

I welcomed Hotwife Taylor Leigh and Gabriel Mann on my podcast to tell us about their hot new memoir, SeXXXperience.

I enjoyed reading their book and some of the very revealing details of their personal lives as they have journeyed through being swingers, escorts and, for Hotwife Taylor Leigh, adult films.

The reality is that there are some parts of our lives that we feel we should keep hidden from others – whether it’s because we want to keep it a secret to ourselves and it’s no one else’s business, or because we are afraid of feeling judged or shamed by those around us for our choices.

This is especially true of people who are immersed in alternative lifestyles like swinging, and, in the case of Taylor of Gabe, also escorting and making adult films.

So I invited Taylor and Gabe onto my show to uncover the sexy truths in their lives, and go into even more depth about some of the unique events that have brought them to this point in their very interesting relationship.

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Tonight’s episode of Seek, Discover, Create will offer you an unfiltered look into the erotic worlds of swinging, adult films and escorting, and how Taylor and Gabe’s committed, successful and loving marriage thrives on and in these extremes.

This duo talks to us about about their unbelievable journey from torrid love affair to making porn.

We explore the details of what it’s like for Taylor and Gabe as they play within the swinging lifestyle, with the extra kick of having a hotwifing relationship dynamic with Hotwife Taylor exploring on her own.

Taylor and Gabe also tell us their tips on how to make a happy marriage and a successful swinging relationship, based on some of the mistakes they made when they were first starting out, and how to handle things when swinging goes wrong.

They debunk the most common myths that some people might have about the swinging and consensually non-monogamous lifestyle, and offer some advice to couples who want to get started opening up their relationship to new possibilities.

So join us for my new podcast episode, airing live tonight (and every Tuesday) at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST on VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
iTunes
Google Play
Spotify
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Voice America

Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Lexi Sylver SDC on CJAD 800 AM Dr. Laurie Betito Passion

Swingers Panel on CJAD’s Passion with Dr. Laurie Betito

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual people.

Lexi’s back to the mainstream airwaves!

I was excited when Dr. Laurie Betito invited me back to her radio show, Passion, on Montreal’s CJAD 800 AM last night.

With my friend and colleague George Jones from SDC.com by my side, we joined Dr. Laurie LIVE in studio to talk about what the swinger lifestyle is like in Montreal, and what the swinger and consensual non-monogamy philosophy is for all of us in the lifestyle.

We also answered a bunch of questions from Dr. Laurie’s fans and audience who had questions about how they could enter the swinger lifestyle, how to initiate those often-challenging first conversations with one’s partner, our own personal advice on how to get started experiencing what the swingers’ lifestyle has to offer.

Listen here or on Dr. Laurie’s Soundcloud.

Swingers Panel: How To Pop The Question

Dr. Laurie Betito’s Passion on CJAD 800 AM, August 22, 2019.

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Please note that I know that not everyone’s swinger experiences are the same. When I go on air or on my podcast to talk about how I explore the lifestyle personally, and how I know the lifestyle to be in my experience, I am not speaking for how everyone else might navigate being in their own unique consensually non-monogamous relationship.

So I want to hear about your own personal experiences!

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ASN Lifestyle Magazine | Swinger Lifestyle | Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Encore Podcast: The Swinging Lifestyle with ASN Lifestyle Magazine

What exactly IS “the lifestyle”?

When it comes to consensual non-monogamy, there is no one right way to do anything. Everyone paves their own path, whether solo or with their relationship partner(s).

That’s why it’s incredibly helpful to talk to people who are already immersed in the lifestyle help you navigate your way as you’re going through each of your firsts, and through the fun and the difficult moments.

Enter ASN Lifestyle Magazine, stage right.

Today I’m airing an encore presentation from this podcast episode with two of my favorite people, Michael and Sheri Ramos, who are the co-founders of ASN Entertainment and ASN Lifestyle Magazine. The three of us chatted like old pals about what ASN is all about, and reveal why they founded the only publication in the world for people within the lifestyle.

Since there are various ways someone can engage in non-monogamous relationships, and there are so many labels out there that people may interpret differently (e.g. open vs. monogamish vs. swingers vs. polyswing vs. polyamorous), I personally believe that the best way to learn about the lifestyle is to hear it from those who are already living it, and listen to / read their own stories about their personal experiences.

These days, with more people choosing non-monogamy in their own lives and relationships, media sources like ASN and SDC.com are only increasing in popularity. It’s hard to find reliable information about consensual non-monogamy online, as well as real-life stories from people who have gone through all these first steps – which is what ASN and SDC are all about, and why ASN has partnered with SDC.

Lexi Sylver ASN Lifestyle Magazine Shameless Interview Sexy Photos August 2019

(Shameless self-promotion moment: I was recently featured in the August 2019 issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine! Check it out and read all about my personal experiences in my own consensually non-monogamous relationship, why I love being the producer and host of my own podcast, SDC Presents: Seek, Discover, Create, and the amazing opportunities I get to travel all around the world. I also reveal a bit about my upcoming erotic book, Mating Season – so check it out!)

So if you’re curious about the ethically non-monogamous lifestyle and you’re seeking resources to help you navigate your personal life and relationships, join me, Michael and Sheri for this awesome episode!

Listen to our conversation about who are the readers that ASN Lifestyle Magazine attracts, the kinds of topics their audience is most interested in knowing more about, and how ASN selects the writers to help guide their audience through the various phases of their journey into non-monogamy.

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Mike and Sheri also discuss current events and trends within the swinging and ethically non-monogamous lifestyle, and some of the exciting new directions they’ll be taking ASN in the near future.

So listen to this hot new podcast episode tonight at 8 PM EST / 5 PM PST on Voice America’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Dirty Lola Francisco Ramirez Sex Probz NY Mag The Cut Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Redefining Sex in the Digital Age: Part 2

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual folx.

Last week, I aired Part 1 of this fun miniseries with Dirty Lola and Francisco Ramirez, the co-hosts of the awesome new show Sex Probz on New York Magazine’s The Cut. And we had great feedback from all of you about how important it was to cover these exact topics.

This week, get ready for the second part of our awesome and informative conversation, as we focus on a few different subjects that are super relevant, especially in times like these!

We’re going to explore what we can do to help people maintain a positive body image and self-confidence in a Photoshop-heavy world where, and where Western society’s concept of beauty is unnatural, unattainable and dramatically non-inclusive.

We’re also going to talk about how we as sex educators can redefine what sex actually means and how to have a dialogue about sex and the concept of virginity in a way that encompasses all bodies, genders and sexual orientations.

Finally, we’ll be examining how we can all remove stigma and shame from the way we feel, talk about and express our sexuality.

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Last episode (the first part of this series), we focused more on how and why Dirty Lola and Francisco began their forays into sex education, as well as the added challenges that sex educators, sex workers and activists are facing in light of SESTA FOSTA.

We’re going to go deeper and talk about one of my favorite topics – self-confidence and body image – and how we can block out the excessively filtered and curated content that we constantly see inundating our social media feeds. That sounds like an impossibility given the influx of new posts that are bombarding us everywhere, especially on our mobile devices, but it’s doable if you understand that people usually post only the best and happiest moments in their lives, the sexiest photos of themselves, and those might not reflect the realities they are actually living. So comparing yourself to the images your social media friends can only do you a disservice, because that’s not real life.

So tune in to the second installment of my first two-part podcast miniseries of what it means to redefine sex and sexuality in the digital age, airing live tonight (and every Tuesday) at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST on VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Dirty Lola Francisco Ramirez Sex Probz NY Mag The Cut Lexi Sylver SDC Podcast

Redefining Sex in the Digital Age: Part 1

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

Before I start telling you all about this new episode and why you should tune in…

This is the first edition of Seek, Discover Create in a new time slot!

As you probably read in my previous blog, my podcast has moved from The Sexy Lifestyle Network onto the VoiceAmerica Variety channel!

This means my message – and the messages of my special podcast guests – will now be broadcast to an even bigger audience! How exciting!!!

Ok, ok, enough with the exclamation marks and onto the meat and potatoes of this article!

As we are all too aware – at least, those of us who are old enough to know what it was like to NOT be living in a digital age and still have traumatic dreams featuring the sounds of dial-up internet – living in these digital times can be damn HARD.

This is especially true when you’re talking about sexuality and dating – and, most recently, with the added constraints of the USA’s SESTA FOSTA bill.

To help me explore these very delicate topics, I invited Dirty Lola and Francisco Ramirez, the co-hosts of Sex Probz on New York Magazine’s The Cut, onto my show.

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The three of us had such an incredible conversation – and a long one! – that I had to edit our audio into two separate episodes!

So this is the first in a two-part series of the realities of Redefining Sex in the Digital Age.

We get personal and explore how Dirty Lola and Francisco got into sex education, and talk about some of the unique challenges that sex educators experience in today’s world, and the added hurdles that we and sex workers and activists face in light of SESTA FOSTA.

In the second part of this miniseries, we’ll be talking about how people can maintain a positive body image in a Photoshop-hungry world, and we’ll examine how we can remove stigma and shame from the way we all feel, talk about and express our sexuality.

So join us for my new podcast episode, airing live tonight (and every Tuesday) at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST on VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel!

If you missed tonight’s episode, or want to catch up on my podcast, you can listen to episodes on demand on my Voice America channel and via:
iTunes
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Spotify
Tune In
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Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Lexi Sylver Erotic Sex Podcast SDC

My Lexual Podcast is Now on VoiceAmerica Variety!

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual listeners.

I am thrilled to announce this very exciting news about my podcast!

SDC Presents Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver has moved to VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel!

This shift in channels brings me more exposure to a much larger audience of perverted listeners, just like you.

I’ll also be making some other changes to my show’s format, so get ready!

Don’t worry: you’ll still enjoy having the same quality of expert guests, and we’ll still be covering intriguing and important topics about sex, health and relationships.

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Listen to my new shows LIVE every week on Tuesdays at 5 PM PST / 8 PM EST on VoiceAmerica’s Variety channel, and check out all my back episodes on my Show channel.

You can also download my episodes anywhere you get your podcasts, including:

iTunes
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Voice America Variety

Thank you all for listening, my Lexual friends and fiends.

Until next time, Stay Lexual and find me on FacebookTwitter, and Instagram.

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Lexi Sylver ASN Lifestyle Magazine Shameless Interview Sexy Photos August 2019

I’m on The Cover of ASN Lifestyle Magazine’s August 2019 Issue!

What a Lexual day to be back in my playground, you sexy perverts, you!

I am absolutely thrilled to announce that ASN Lifestyle Magazine has featured me as the cover girl this August 2019!

What an incredible honor it is to have been selected for this opportunity. I was not expecting to have such a high-profile publication under my belt so soon in my journey as a sexual educator and podcast persona, yet here we are!

That’s right – my ass is on the cover of ASN!!! My first-ever magazine feature… and WHAT a feature!

Lexi Sylver ASN Lifestyle Magazine August 2019 Shameless Interview and Sexy Photos

Along with the incredible exposure (puns intended), ASN also interviewed me at length in this issue about my relationship within the lifestyle, the work I’m doing with SDC as a podcast producer and host of SDC Presents Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver, as the Media Content Director of SDC.com, and as a sexual educator who is also an ambassador for the consensually non-monogamous community.

I also reveal some dirty details about why I love writing erotic short stories, how I get inspired and find my ideas, and I reveal some news aboutmy upcoming collection of erotic short stories, Mating Season!

Inside, you’ll also find a variety of other sexy photos I took with two of my talented Montreal-based photographer friends, Fabrice de Bray and Jennifer Pontarelli.

Here’s a little sneak peek of some of the juicy tidbits you can expect inside this incredible issue of ASN Lifestyle Magazine

Lexi Sylver ASN Lifestyle Magazine August 2019 Shameless Interview and Sexy Photos

When I read over my answers to these interview questions, I realized just how deep and personal I went with ASN in this August issue. I didn’t expect to be that overtly straightforward about my sexual history, including delving into my experiences with slut-shaming in high school.

I especially wasn’t expecting to go into such detail about my longtime relationship with my nesting partner of fifteen years and how we choose to navigate the consensually non-monogamous style. But ASN coaxed the story out of me, so I couldn’t resist sharing the ins and outs of our incredible journey within the lifestyle, as well as the lessons we’ve learned about honesty and communication along the way.

If you’ve ever wanted to get to know the real me, this is a phenomenal way to get started.

Read the entire interview and see my photo spread in ASN’s August 2019 edition here.

Let me know what you think of my interview!

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