Sex Advice, Sex Positions

Sex Position: The Submissive Siren

September 18, 2018
Sex Position Downward Dog | Lexi Sylver

Welcome back to my playground, fellow pervs.

I know you Lexual people are always looking for new ways to experience pleasure with your partners.

If you’ve already tried this one, then you know exactly how incredible it feels. It’s one of my personal favorites!

And if you haven’t sampled this sex position yet, there’s no time like the present…

Note: I’ve modified the language here to make it more accessible to folks of all genders. “Top” is the person giving to the “Bottom”, who is the receiver. The top can be someone with a penis or a strap-on.

This position is written from the perspective of the top, who’s doing all the dirty work here!

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The Submissive Siren

AKA The Downward Dog, The Belly Flop, The Flatiron

What it is:

A deeper variation of doggy-style, with your receiver lying down instead of putting pressure on their knees.

Why it’s hot:

Incredible G-spot stimulation for your partners with vaginas, while they’re taking on a more submissive role and letting you, the top, control the pace of the sex. This leaves your hands free to explore their ass and is perfect for opening up the opportunity of double penetration for your partners with vaginas!)

(I also find this is a great position to have more control during strap-on sex.)

Because of the shallower thrusts and the tighter, more snug fit, folks with penises will feel bigger and their performance will last longer.

This is also an amazing position for anal sex!

Hygiene note: If you’re going to switch between vaginal and anal sex within the same session, make sure you switch the condom in between to prevent harmful bacteria from entering their vagina and potentially causing an infection.

How to do it:

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Position yourselves as though you’re about to get into doggy style. Your bottom should lie face-down on the bed (or whatever surface you’re using), knees slightly bent with a pillow under your bottom’s belly. Kneel behind them and pull their legs slightly apart. If you don’t have a pillow, you can still do this position, but you’ll be changing the angle of penetration, so you might want to slip a hand under their belly to lift your receiver’s hips.

Always start with slow, shallow thrusts, whether it’s vaginal or anal. Because of the deeper vaginal penetration than traditional doggy-style, and the contact with your partner’s cervix, if you begin with full-force thrusting power, their screams will be ones of pain, not pleasure.

How to kink it up:

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Grab their hair: Don’t be too rough and try to rip it out of their head, but holding their hair back will stimulate the nerve endings in their scalp and give them extra pleasure, and make them feel even more submissive.

Wrap a hand around their neck: From your angle and with their face down in the mattress, you’ll probably only be able to put a hand on the back of their neck, using just enough pressure to remind them who’s boss.

Watch each other: If you love eye contact and want the position to be more intimate and you don’t like the fact that you can’t see your partner’s expression during sex, simply prop up a mirror in front of you!

Add toys:

For their clit: This is a bit of a tough sex position for manual clitoral stimulation, but if you add a toy, they can have mind-blowing orgasms.

Play with their ass (for folks with vaginas): If they’re down with it, use some lube and start by gently massaging their anus with one or two fingers, slowly going slightly deeper into their ass. When they’re ready, lube up whichever toy they want to use and slowly slide it into their ass.

Play with their ass (for folks with prostates): Add a butt plug to the mix and give them (and yourself!) anal / P-spot stimulation while thrusting into them. Having a threesome or some group sex? This is a great position to add a third into the mix to give your partner some anal play, too.

What’s your favorite sex position?

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Stay Lexual,



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Lexi Sylver

I’m a shameless sexcapader, author of erotic tales, sexual educator of taboo topics and alternative relationships, pleasure toy sexpert, and advocate for sexual freedom. My mission is to empower you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality, stripping away your inhibitions and fears, so that you can freely pursue the fulfilling sex life and relationships you desire — and deserve. As your Lexual guide, I’ll help you map out your own erotic journey by giving you the tools you need to better connect with your own mind and body, communicate your desires and needs with your partners, and thrive in your customized, authentic lifestyle. I’m known for my passionate style and inclusive approach, drawing from my own real-life experiences to educate, entertain, and inspire you, all while helping you discover the realm of infinite erotic possibilities that await you once you open your mind to them. Whether you’re indulging in my erotic short stories, getting sex and relationship coaching from me, joining my webinars and events, reading my articles and blogs, perusing the sex toys in my shop, or listening to my podcasts, I strive to stimulate you to think about your sexuality in a new light — freely and fearlessly. Dare to delve deeper and explore YOUR Lexuality.


  1. Paul C

    April 16, 2020 at 10:14 am Reply

    I really love to learn more about sex positions. It is just right to explore this kind of topic. It is our nature, right.

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