Sex Advice, Sex Positions

Sex Position: The Submissive Siren

September 18, 2018
Sex Position Downward Dog | Lexi Sylver

Welcome back to my playground, fellow pervs.

I know you Lexual people are always looking for new ways to experience pleasure with your partners.

If you’ve already tried this one, then you know exactly how incredible it feels. It’s one of my personal favorites!

And if you haven’t sampled this position yet, there’s no time like the present…

The Submissive Siren

AKA The Downward Dog, The Belly Flop, The Flatiron

What it is:

A deeper variation of doggy-style, with her lying down instead of putting pressure on her knees.

Why it’s hot:

Incredible G-spot stimulation for her, while she’s taking on a more submissive role and letting him control the pace of the sex. This leaves his hands free to explore her ass and is perfect for opening up the opportunity of double penetration for her.

(I also find this is a great position to have more control during strap-on sex, whether your bottom is female or male.)

Because of the shallower thrusts and the tighter, more snug fit, he’ll feel bigger and his performance will last longer.

This is also an amazing position for anal sex!

Hygiene note: If you’re going to switch between vaginal and anal sex within the same session, make sure you switch the condom in between to prevent harmful bacteria from entering her vagina and potentially causing an infection.

How to do it:

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Position yourselves as though you’re about to get into doggy style. She should lie face-down on the bed (or whatever surface you’re using), knees slightly bent with a pillow under her belly. He kneels behind her with his legs slightly apart. If you don’t have a pillow, you can still do this position, but you’ll be changing the angle of penetration, so he might want to slip a hand under her belly to lift her hips.

Always start with slow, shallow thrusts. Because of the deeper penetration than traditional doggy-style, and the contact with her cervix, if he begins with full-force thrusting power, her screams will be ones of pain, not pleasure.

How to kink it up:

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Grab her hair: Don’t be too rough and try to rip it out of her head, but holding her hair back will stimulate the nerve endings in her scalp and give her extra pleasure, and make her feel even more submissive.

Wrap a hand around her neck: From your angle and with her face down in the mattress, you’ll probably only be able to put a hand on the back of her neck, using just enough pressure to remind her who’s boss.

Watch each other: If you love eye contact and want the position to be more intimate and you don’t like the fact that you can’t see your partner’s expression during sex, simply prop up a mirror in front of you!

Add toys:

For her clit: This is a bit of a tough position for manual clitoral stimulation, but if you add a toy underneath her, she can have mind-blowing orgasms.

Play with her ass: If she’s down with it, use some lube and start by gently massaging her anus with one or two fingers, slowly going slightly deeper into her ass. When she’s ready, lube up whichever toy she wants to use and slowly slide it into her ass.

Play with his ass: He can add a butt plug to the mix and get anal / P-spot stimulation while he thrusts into her. Having a threesome or some group sex? This is a great position to add a third into the mix to give him some anal play, too.


What’s your favorite sex position?

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Stay Lexual,



PS: I use “him/he/his” and “her/she/hers” as a simplification to distinguish between participants. “HE” in this case simply indicates whoever is doing the penetrating, and “SHE” is the person who is receiving the penetration. These pronouns are not necessarily indicative of the gender or gender identity of the participants.


Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, and her personal blog. As the Media Director for, the world’s largest adult sex education and swingers dating platform, Lexi collaborates with sexuality, health and relationship experts to provide reliable resources for those who seek it. In her work as an advocate, educator and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she travels frequently to conferences and speaks publicly at events like The Montreal Taboo Sex Show (Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction). Lexi wrote and creatively produced many movies, series and scenes in the adult entertainment industry and was nominated in 2017 for an AVN award for Best Screenplay. She is a published erotic author with her new book, a collection of erotic short stories called Mating Season, now available. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality!


  1. Paul C

    April 16, 2020 at 10:14 am Reply

    I really love to learn more about sex positions. It is just right to explore this kind of topic. It is our nature, right.

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