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Happy Pride Month!

June 3, 2019
Lexi Sylver LGBTQIA Pride Month

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual folx!

Are you feeling proud of who you are? You should be!

No matter your sexual orientation and gender and how you choose to express and explore them, you should feel comfortable to embrace who you are!

Western society (and mostly the whole world, let’s be honest) is antiquated when it comes to giving others the space, respect and laws for folx in the LGBTQIA+ community to live our lives in away that we should be free to do!

Personally, I identify as a pansexual, kinky cis-gender female in an ethically non-monogamous relationship.

And no, I’m NOT attracted to pans! 😉

There is so much to learn about the incredible folx in the LGBTQIA+ community. I learn more and more every day. An incredible resource for me has been Queer Sex Ed, a podcast and website devoted to education people about inclusive and comprehensive sexual education. I highly recommend it.

If you are straight (meaning you identify as heterosexual), then it’s ever so important for you to be an ally. To do that, it’s important to respect the fact that Pride is a time when individuals within the LGBTQ+ community are coming together to celebrate their sexuality and their gender. So if you’re straight, don’t take the spotlight away from those who are expressing themselves. This is about all of us lesbian, gay, bisexual, pansexual, transgender, questioning, queer, intersex, and asexual folx (to name a few!) who are all too often discriminated against for the way we feel about ourselves, our bodies, our minds, and our sexuality.

I acknowledge that as a cis woman who is pansexual, I have it a lot easier than some of the other folx in our community, because it’s WAY more socially acceptable to be a cis female who has an open sexuality than it is for others – which is TOTALLY unfair. So I try to use my privilege for good, to help educate about gender and sexuality and identity, to fight for everyone to have equal human rights, so we can all live our lives however we so choose.

No one should have the right to control what we can and can’t say and do, who we can love, and how we feel in our own bodies.

No matter your gender and sexuality, or how you choose (or not) to express them:

  • Be respectful, ALWAYS.
  • Don’t yuck someone else’s yum! Just because someone might be into something you’re not, does not give you the right to judge them! Live and let live.
  • Never assume someone’s gender. If you don’t know, then you can volunteer your own pronouns and then respectfully ask them, “what are your pronouns?”
  • USE an individual’s proper pronouns!!!!! And if you make a mistake (you’re fucking human, it happens), apologize and correct yourself.
  • Support the LGBTQIA community by buying from queer shops, employing queer-identified people, and speaking up if you hear people making insensitive comments about someone’s gender and/or sexuality.
  • Educate yourself. There is a lot to know about gender identity and sexual identity. Don’t assume you know everything!

Happy Pride Month, Lexual folx!


Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, and her personal blog. As the Media Director for, the world’s largest adult sex education and swingers dating platform, Lexi collaborates with sexuality, health and relationship experts to provide reliable resources for those who seek it. In her work as an advocate, educator and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she travels frequently to conferences and speaks publicly at events like The Montreal Taboo Sex Show (Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction). Lexi wrote and creatively produced many movies, series and scenes in the adult entertainment industry and was nominated in 2017 for an AVN award for Best Screenplay. She is a published erotic author with her new book, a collection of erotic short stories called Mating Season, now available. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality!

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