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Desire Mapping and the Power of Sex Stories

February 25, 2020

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

What does “just sex” really mean?

While we can have “just sex”, there is so much more to it. Our sexuality is a big part of us, and it’s multifaceted.

Join me and special guest, Dr. Jaime M. Grant, the author of Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire, for an uncensored talk about how to achieve the sex life you truly desire. Jaime and I discuss what sex is all about, beyond a blur of body parts and the exchange of fluids and moans, and how any sex you have is meaningful. We explain how our past sexual experiences contributed to the development our current sexual selves, and what those adventures can help us learn about what we truly want in sex, relationships and life.

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Jaime explores the concept of Desire Mapping, and how people can use their individual Desire Map to uncover the fears and barriers that hold them back from living a truly fulfilling erotic life. Mapping our sexual story is a powerful technique in discovering, decoding, and recognizing all the memories that contribute to our sexual patterns.

What gets you off? What excites you? What brings up your traumas or makes you uncomfortable? Exploring these feelings not only helps us recognize parts of ourselves that we may have forgotten, but hold space to process our experiences safely.

We also talk about the power that lies in telling our sex stories, and how sharing our erotic tales help us discover more about our authentic sexuality and map our path to our best sex. Ever had that friend you could tell anything to about your sexual experiences? Are you that friend? A gift in itself, do you find pleasure in sharing your erotic tales? Speaking out loud the lustful events or fantasies of our lives not only helps us feel closer to those around us, but ourselves.

Answering Letters to Lexi, we dissect the ins and outs of coming out through Jaime’s personal journey in the same experience. A listener also asked about the best practices for asking your partner to explore kink with you. If your partner isn’t comfortable, is there a space where you can explore on your own? Listen up!

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Lexi Sylver

I’m a shameless sexcapader, author of erotic tales, sexual educator of taboo topics and alternative relationships, pleasure toy sexpert, and advocate for sexual freedom. My mission is to empower you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality, stripping away your inhibitions and fears, so that you can freely pursue the fulfilling sex life and relationships you desire — and deserve. As your Lexual guide, I’ll help you map out your own erotic journey by giving you the tools you need to better connect with your own mind and body, communicate your desires and needs with your partners, and thrive in your customized, authentic lifestyle. I’m known for my passionate style and inclusive approach, drawing from my own real-life experiences to educate, entertain, and inspire you, all while helping you discover the realm of infinite erotic possibilities that await you once you open your mind to them. Whether you’re indulging in my erotic short stories, getting sex and relationship coaching from me, joining my webinars and events, reading my articles and blogs, perusing the sex toys in my shop, or listening to my podcasts, I strive to stimulate you to think about your sexuality in a new light — freely and fearlessly. Dare to delve deeper and explore YOUR Lexuality.

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