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Desire Mapping and the Power of Sex Stories

February 25, 2020

Welcome back to my playground, my Lexual fiends and friends.

What does “just sex” really mean?

While we can have “just sex”, there is so much more to it. Our sexuality is a big part of us, and it’s multifaceted.

Join me and special guest, Dr. Jaime M. Grant, the author of Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire, for an uncensored talk about how to achieve the sex life you truly desire. Jaime and I discuss what sex is all about, beyond a blur of body parts and the exchange of fluids and moans, and how any sex you have is meaningful. We explain how our past sexual experiences contributed to the development our current sexual selves, and what those adventures can help us learn about what we truly want in sex, relationships and life.

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Jaime explores the concept of Desire Mapping, and how people can use their individual Desire Map to uncover the fears and barriers that hold them back from living a truly fulfilling erotic life. Mapping our sexual story is a powerful technique in discovering, decoding, and recognizing all the memories that contribute to our sexual patterns.

What gets you off? What excites you? What brings up your traumas or makes you uncomfortable? Exploring these feelings not only helps us recognize parts of ourselves that we may have forgotten, but hold space to process our experiences safely.

We also talk about the power that lies in telling our sex stories, and how sharing our erotic tales help us discover more about our authentic sexuality and map our path to our best sex. Ever had that friend you could tell anything to about your sexual experiences? Are you that friend? A gift in itself, do you find pleasure in sharing your erotic tales? Speaking out loud the lustful events or fantasies of our lives not only helps us feel closer to those around us, but ourselves.

Answering Letters to Lexi, we dissect the ins and outs of coming out through Jaime’s personal journey in the same experience. A listener also asked about the best practices for asking your partner to explore kink with you. If your partner isn’t comfortable, is there a space where you can explore on your own? Listen up!

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Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver is the Montreal-based erotica author of Mating Season and All the Queen’s Men. She enjoys having a kinky and unconventional lifestyle and sharing her stories and experiences with others. Lexi hosts and produces SDC.com’s sexuality podcast, Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver. As an entrepreneur, advocate, educator, public speaker and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she journeys the world to attend travel events and conferences. She regularly contributes articles about sexuality and relationships to Pornhub’s Sexual Wellness Center, ASN Lifestyle Magazine, SDC.com and her personal blog. As the Media Director for SDC.com, the world’s largest adult sex education and swingers dating platform, Lexi collaborates with sexuality, health and relationship experts to provide reliable resources for those who seek it. In her work as an advocate, educator and coach for consensual non-monogamy and the swinging lifestyle, she travels frequently to conferences and speaks publicly at events like The Montreal Taboo Sex Show (Le Salon de l’Amour et de la Séduction). Lexi wrote and creatively produced many movies, series and scenes in the adult entertainment industry and was nominated in 2017 for an AVN award for Best Screenplay. She is a published erotic author with her new book, a collection of erotic short stories called Mating Season, now available. Her mission is to promote empowerment and education by guiding you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality!

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