Sex Education, Updates, Workshops & Events, World

Rebel With a Cause: Sex Down South Recap

September 11, 2018
Sex Down South 2018 with Lexi Sylver

Welcome back to my playground, Lexual people.

As I recover from a fun-filled and jam-packed weekend at the Sex Down South Conference in Atlanta, Georgia, I’m reflecting upon all the incredible individuals I had the pleasure to meet, and the ways in which each of them inspired me!

Lexi Sylver and Casey Carter at Sex Down South Conference 2018 in Atlanta, Georgia
Lexi Sylver and erotic author Casey Carter at Sex Down South Conference 2018 in Atlanta, Georgia

Thank you! I am so grateful to all of you for imparting your wisdom upon me and educating me in your own way as to how I can continue to help others live their best sex-positive lives.

Many of you know I have personally committed to raising awareness around the importance of sexual education, and making Sex Ed more comprehensive – and mandatory! For youth, I believe that sexual education should be considered by schools to be as (or more) important as math, science and language. I’ve done fundraisers with the Sexual Health Network of Quebec to propel forth that exact mission.

Sex education is ongoing – and there’s so much to learn, even as adults. That’s just one reason I’m grateful to have had an opportunity to attend such an involving and inclusive conference like Sex Down South, where I had the luxury of absorbing a plethora of info about sexuality, while making me hungry to learn even more.

It was incredibly refreshing to meet so many people who were truly sex-positive in a place where we all felt free to express ourselves, however we desired.

Sex Down South 2018 with Lexi Sylver

What is Sex Positivity?

No, you smartass, it doesn’t mean you always say yes to sex!

Sex positivity means that as long as sex is safe and consensual between the individuals involved, you should feel free to enjoy yourself any way you choose!

To paraphrase Sara Connell, host of the Queer Sex Ed podcast, being sex-positive means respecting other people’s choices about their body and their identity. As long as it’s consensual, there is no right or wrong gender identity or expression, sexual orientation, relationship structure, or kink.

What feels right for one person may not feel right for you – but that doesn’t mean it’s wrong!

It’s also important to acknowledge that gender and sexuality are fluid, and your feelings, choices, orientation, desires, and preferences can change throughout your life. And that’s okay!

Gender Identity - from the Sex Down South 2018 Booklet | Lexi Sylver
Gender Identity | For great info on sexual health, gender, sexuality and relationships, click here to check out the Queer Sex Ed podcast!

We all have an equal right to pleasure!

[Note: I’m going to go deeper about this in a separate blog, because there’s a whole lot more I want to say on the meaning of living a sex-positive life.]

What did I learn at SDS?

What struck me most about attending Sex Down South was the inclusiveness of attendees from a wide variety of genders, sexualities and cultural backgrounds.

Everyone was made to feel comfortable, including allowing a clothing-optional space and access to gender-neutral bathrooms.

Attending these workshops and keynote speeches moved me to the core and were yet another reminder of just how many crucial issues around sexuality are in dire need of being addressed in society.

I will talk more about each of these (and much, much more) in my upcoming podcast on (in no particular order, and this is by no means an exhaustive list):

  • The lack of an inclusive and comprehensive sexual education for youth and adults
  • The normalization of gender diversity and sexual diversity
  • Teaching parents how to talk to their children about sexuality
  • The meaning of consent
  • Sexual abuse and violence, and the abuse of power
  • Coping with sexual trauma
  • The de-stigmatization of sex work and sex workers
  • Cultural differences in sexuality
  • Equal access to sexual health resources
  • Sexuality and disability
  • Guilt and shame around sexuality

And much, much more…

Sex Down South | Parish Blair, Sara Connell, Jet Setting Jasmine, King Noire and Dr. Jessica O'Reilly | Lexi Sylver
Sex Down South Conference 2018 in Atlanta, Georgia | Parish Blair (of Parish Blair TV) and Lexi Sylver, Sara Connell from Queer Sex Ed, Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire of Royal Fetish Films, and Dr. Jessica O’Reilly (aka Dr. Jess)

How can I educate others?

As I said in the workshop hosted by Devan Dunson (co-director of Black Men Smile):

I proclaim that I will strive to empower people to consensually enjoy and express their sexuality – whatever that may be and however they choose to do so – without shame, guilt, fear or judgment.

With such a broad scope of topics about sexuality, I aim to do my part to create a safe space and help educate people through my blog, by providing information and reliable resources you can which will provide you with more in-depth learning and understanding.

What can YOU do to be more sex-positive?

Start by being respectful, keeping an open mind and be willing to learn from others!

Know that we all have a right to live, a right to experience pleasure, and be who we are. Even if other people may have a different way of feeling and expressing themselves, it’s not wrong – and it’s not for you to judge. Live and let live!

Enjoy your sexuality (safely and consensually, of course), and let others choose how they want to enjoy theirs and do whatever makes them feel comfortable in their skin!

I’ll be talking much more about sexuality and how to live a shame-free sex-positive life in my upcoming podcast with, called Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver! Coming soon to Voice America and The Sexy Lifestyle Network!

All the details will be released in the next few weeks, so you’ll know when and where to tune in!

Until then, find me on Facebook, Instagram and Twitter.

Stay Lexual,




Lexi Sylver

I’m a shameless sexcapader, author of erotic tales, sexual educator of taboo topics and alternative relationships, pleasure toy sexpert, and advocate for sexual freedom. My mission is to empower you to shamelessly explore your Lexuality, stripping away your inhibitions and fears, so that you can freely pursue the fulfilling sex life and relationships you desire — and deserve. As your Lexual guide, I’ll help you map out your own erotic journey by giving you the tools you need to better connect with your own mind and body, communicate your desires and needs with your partners, and thrive in your customized, authentic lifestyle. I’m known for my passionate style and inclusive approach, drawing from my own real-life experiences to educate, entertain, and inspire you, all while helping you discover the realm of infinite erotic possibilities that await you once you open your mind to them. Whether you’re indulging in my erotic short stories, getting sex and relationship coaching from me, joining my webinars and events, reading my articles and blogs, perusing the sex toys in my shop, or listening to my podcasts, I strive to stimulate you to think about your sexuality in a new light — freely and fearlessly. Dare to delve deeper and explore YOUR Lexuality.


  1. Healthy Non-Monogamy: How to Navigate Conflict – Lexi Sylver

    March 22, 2019 at 5:10 pm Reply

    […] first met Diana at Sex Down South in Atlanta, and attended a presentation she gave with her partner, Keiland, about non-monogamy and the […]

  2. The Art of Sensual Impact Play: From Consent to After Care – Lexi Sylver

    February 7, 2019 at 11:59 am Reply

    […] first met King Heff at the Sex Down South Conference 2018 in Atlanta late last year, and one of my first memories of him was watching him flog someone. It was so well […]

Leave a comment